There are certain things that are really strange about weddings and receptions. This past Friday night, we went to a wedding of a friend from early college (who left Bethel after sophmore year), and it got me thinking about wedding things that have always been a little but confusing to me.
(1) Considering that a wedding is one of the most important events in someone's life, why are many of them so incredibly short in length? Sure, some weddings are a little two long (maybe what some people thought about ours?), but it should be longer than 15 minutes. Not always the bride and grooms fault, by the way.
(2) The recieving line. What do you say during the awkward minute that you are standing in front of the bride's or groom's parents, whom you've never met. "Congratulations" is the normal thing to say, but besides that, you're kind of stuck for meaningful conversation in a minute or less.
(3) The D.J. should not be the focus of the reception. Possibly an introduction is in order, and of course introducing the couple, parents and bridal party and the special dances. But other than that, I don't want to hear the d.j. or the name of his company during someone's wedding. I don't want to hear him yelling to interrupt my dinner and I don't think he needs to introduce the bride and groom in the same way as a sports announcer introduces "your very own Chicago Bull!"
(4) The best man's speech and the maid of honor's speech. I'm not sure why the best man usually want to embarass the groom, and bring up past girlfriends and make innappropriate jokes. Usually following that, the maid of honor usually has a sappy, memory-filled speech filled with emotion. I am usually very anti-gender stereotypes, but this one seems true at most all weddings I've been to.
(5) Most people don't like public displays of affection, yet we are all fascinated to watch a bride and groom kiss multiple times during the evening, even while eating. We'd be grossed out if we saw this at a restaurant, but somehow everyone loves it at a wedding (or in a movie).
(1) Considering that a wedding is one of the most important events in someone's life, why are many of them so incredibly short in length? Sure, some weddings are a little two long (maybe what some people thought about ours?), but it should be longer than 15 minutes. Not always the bride and grooms fault, by the way.
(2) The recieving line. What do you say during the awkward minute that you are standing in front of the bride's or groom's parents, whom you've never met. "Congratulations" is the normal thing to say, but besides that, you're kind of stuck for meaningful conversation in a minute or less.
(3) The D.J. should not be the focus of the reception. Possibly an introduction is in order, and of course introducing the couple, parents and bridal party and the special dances. But other than that, I don't want to hear the d.j. or the name of his company during someone's wedding. I don't want to hear him yelling to interrupt my dinner and I don't think he needs to introduce the bride and groom in the same way as a sports announcer introduces "your very own Chicago Bull!"
(4) The best man's speech and the maid of honor's speech. I'm not sure why the best man usually want to embarass the groom, and bring up past girlfriends and make innappropriate jokes. Usually following that, the maid of honor usually has a sappy, memory-filled speech filled with emotion. I am usually very anti-gender stereotypes, but this one seems true at most all weddings I've been to.
(5) Most people don't like public displays of affection, yet we are all fascinated to watch a bride and groom kiss multiple times during the evening, even while eating. We'd be grossed out if we saw this at a restaurant, but somehow everyone loves it at a wedding (or in a movie).
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Also, people who RSVP saying they are coming to the reception but then don't show. The couple paid for you to be there - show up! And it's tacky to show up to a wedding reception with the sole purpose of getting drunk off of free/cheap drinks. Getting drunk is one thing; showing up ONLY to get drunk is another.
Katy, you hit wedding pitfalls perfectly. Though you didn't mention the never to be used again bridesmaid dresses.
Showing up late. We've done this. In fact, we showed up at this last wedding right when the bride was walking down the isle. By the time we walked from our parking spot to the wedding, it was over half over. In our defense, a wedding during rush hour on a Friday is a recipe for late attenders. Maybe that was the plan though. We know someone who planned a wedding for an awkward time in order to limit the amount of "fringe" attenders.
.........um...some people have a habit of showing up late. A lot!
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